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This test is designed to help you evaluate whether you are experiencing abuse. Remember: Your partner may have a rationale for why they're being abusive, but reasons and rationales never excuse abuse. It's never your fault if someone abuses you. Emotional abuse is involved in every type of domestic abuse. Does your partner often seem irritated or angry with you, although you never meant to upset them? You feel confused each time. Do you frequently feel perplexed and frustrated by their responses because you can't get them to understand your intentions? Does your partner act jealous or possessive of  you? Do they accuse you of having affairs or paying too much attention to others? Does your partner make you feel like you are mostly wrong and they are always right? Does your partner seem angry and has "no idea of what you are talking about" when you try to discuss an issue? Do you feel like you are always walking on eggshells? Do you feel like you have to be especially careful to avoid conflicts? Does your partner call you bad names and put you down? Does your partner look at you or act in a way that scares you? Does your partner control what you do, who you see or talk to, where you go? Does your partner deter you from relationships with your friends or family? Does your partner control the money, withhold financial  information, take your money, make you ask for money, or refuse to give you money? Does your partner define your feelings, opinions,  needs, or wants? Has your partner attempted or forced you to have sex against your will? Has your partner used the Bible to persuade you to do what they want? Have they used scripture to condemn or control you? Does your partner tell you you're a bad parent and/or threaten to take away or hurt your children? Does your partner act like the abuse is no big deal, or it's all your fault, or even deny doing it? Has your partner followed you, shown up uninvited or wouldn't leave when asked? Have they gone through your things, mail, or checked voice or e-mail messages? Has your partner destroyed property? (hit, kicked doors, walls, furniture, thrown items, destroyed the phone or pulled the phone cord from the wall, etc.) Has your partner threatened to harm, harmed or killed family pets?  Does you partner intimidate, threaten or harm you with guns, knives, or other weapons? Does your partner shove, slap, pinch, kick, and/or hit you? Has your partner convinced or manipulated you to drop a restraining order and/or charges ? Has your partner threatened to commit suicide? Has your partner threatened to kill you?

Domestic abuse is a pattern of behaviors used to gain and maintain power and control in an intimate relationship. If you are experiencing a pattern of behaviors described from this list, you may be in an abusive relationship.